Do you like having your photo taken? Love pictures of yourself?
Well, you and 98% of the rest of the population.
So, let’s put that aside for a moment. Forget the camera. Instead, brew a cup of coffee, kick your feet up and read on…
Welcome back! So glad you returned because I want to chat about what’s really important.
I believe we are all doing our best; as mothers, wives, friends, daughters, and employees. I believe we are giving as much as we can, wherever, and whenever we can.
I also know it often doesn’t feel like enough.
The house never stays tidy for more than 10 minutes. At work you’re feeling guilty for not being home with your kids. At home you’re feeling guilty for dashing out of work early to get to soccer practice and leaving that project unfinished. At the end of the day you’re feeling guilty for not having more energy to love-up on your partner. And when you try on that LBD to go out on a rare night with friends, you’re feeling guilty for missing that HIIT workout to get to work early and skipping kale for garlic fries smothered in ranch dressing. You haven’t called your mom in 3 days (she’s bound to be brooding about that) and you’re worried about your dad who was just diagnosed with diabetes – is mom still baking him those apple pies? Meanwhile, social media is parading before you images of beautiful homes, crafty moms, flat abs, and ideas for romantic date nights that you have no energy for.
And the answer always seems to be more, more, more. Be more grateful, be more present, be more balanced, be more present, be more mindful, more empathetic, assertive, open, vulnerable, brave… And you know what? More sounds like hard work. And we’re already doing enough of that, right?
So, I’m not here to tell you you’re wrong in how you’re doing in life, or how you should learn to love yourself in images, or even that you need to just focus on the positives, appreciate the moment, or whatever popular self-help message is currently being pedaled to us.
What I will say is this: in the middle of that emotional muddle, in the eye of the storm of your doing-ness, are GREAT things. Special, beautiful, unique, heartbreaking, touching stories of where everything you’re doing is making a difference.
You don’t always see them of course. It’s the old wood and trees analogy. It’s hard to appreciate the beauty of the forest when you’re fighting through the foliage to find your way to a clearing.
But it’s there.
It’s in the way your kids fling themselves into your arms at the end of a long day, bursting with disjointed stories. Or that loving look you never notice your partner bestows upon you when you are busy dancing in the living room with your kids, arms flailing in the air. Or in the moment when your back is turned when your kids offer one another a helping hand or word of encouragement. It’s even in the spats and arguments because you always come back together again at the end of the day, with hugs, apologies, and acceptance.
And if I could capture and preserve even a small slice of all of that, like a visual time capsule, wouldn’t that be enough? And by enough I mean a wonderful place to return to at the end of a rough day where you definitely did not FEEL like enough. Or in 30 years, when all that you have now has changed and transformed into an entirely new life you can barely even comprehend right now.
What does that look like? How do I do that? There’s not just one way. I’ll tell you more about that, just click here.
All I’m asking you to do is put down that heavy burden of all that isn’t right and perfect and spend time focusing on the most important things to you right now: right now.
Don’t diet. Don’t buy new clothes. Don’t wait for the summer – it might be too hot. Don’t wait for the fall – it might be too wet. Stop waiting. Your life is happening now. This morning when your daughter clasped your hand as you crossed the street to school? What if that was the last time she let you hold her hand in front of her friends ever again? You just don’t know when today’s mundane is tomorrow’s much-missed history.
Memories by Michelle is not just a clever alliteration, it’s a reason d’etre. Today’s life is tomorrow’s remembrance. Just think back to your own childhood. The simple things you remember, the memories of simple moments that feel like coming home. That’s what I want to capture for you. Free of all those expectations we place on ourselves and others. Where what you’re wearing isn’t as important as who you’re being.
Just in case everything else I’ve written hasn’t given you a clue, let me clear a couple of key things up:
If you’re not looking for anything special…
I’m not your girl
If you just want a couple of quick pictures…
I’m not your girl
If you want fashion advice and model-like posing
I’m not your girl
If you want to be Photoshopped to look like Beyonce
I’m not your girl
Lots of amazing photographers are doing a great job with all of that and I’m happy to refer you to them. Please just call.
But if it’s just possible that you want a visual record of the things in your life that are, in fact, more than enough, then let’s leave the dishes for a couple of hours and get together.